Friday, March 10, 2017
“Your outlook on life is a direct reflection on how much you like yourself.” ~ Lululemon
Can you imagine what your life would be like if you valued yourself, believed in your worth? I’m talking, really and sincerely liking yourself?
I look back on the years of my life and can see how much my self-doubt, self-consciousness, low-self esteem has kept me from living a fully realized life. What a shame. The things that we worry about, even though to us they are very real and valid, are usually minor in the big picture.
Are you feeling you are not smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough, perfect enough? Yeah, I know. Those things haunt me at times, too. But it’s a waste of time, and more importantly, it’s not true! You are perfectly imperfect just as you are.
You have been saying these things to yourself for years, or someone else has been doing the dirty work and it takes time to unlearn what we have taken on as truth.
One way to start turning this around is to practice the negativity diet. Anytime you hear that voice in your head saying something negative to you, immediately state it back to yourself in the positive. Meaning, if you hear, “You’re not going to get this job, you’re not smart enough, or you’re too old, you’re not pretty enough, or you can fill in the blank, STOP and rephrase that negative. “I am exactly right for this job.” I am good enough. I am more than enough.
The key is consistency. Put a wristband on your wrist if it helps and when you find yourself engaging in self-criticism, give it a good snap. And if that criticism is coming from other people, it is time to distance yourself from them. Even if it’s family, you can love them from a distance. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, who inspire and motivate you. Life and your world will become a much more beautiful place.